Why do people tend to avoid us when they are upset or angry, but enjoy our company when they are happy?

 It's true that sometimes people tend to avoid those they care about when they're upset or angry, but seek them out when they're happy. This behavior can be confusing and hurtful, leaving you feeling rejected or unappreciated. There are a few possible explanations for this phenomenon:

Emotional contagion:

• When someone is feeling strong emotions like anger or sadness, those emotions can be contagious. They might worry about unintentionally transferring their negativity to you, or fear saying or doing something they'll regret later.

Needing space to process:

• When people are upset, they often need time and space to process their emotions and figure out how they're feeling. Trying to deal with their difficult emotions while also managing someone else's feelings can be overwhelming.

Fear of burdening you:

• They might not want to burden you with their problems or feel like they're bringing you down. They might think it's better to keep their distance until they're feeling better.

Protecting themselves:

• In some cases, people might avoid loved ones when they're angry because they worry about saying or doing something hurtful. They might be trying to protect themselves from a potential argument or conflict.

Seeking out positive energy:

• When people are happy, they naturally gravitate towards others who make them feel good. They might seek out your company because you make them laugh, cheer them up, or simply make them feel comfortable and at ease.

It's important to remember that everyone copes with difficult emotions differently. While it's natural to feel hurt or rejected when someone avoids you, try not to take it personally. Here are a few things you can do:

• Communicate openly and honestly: Let your friend know that you're there for them if they need someone to talk to, but also respect their need for space if that's what they need.
• Offer support without being intrusive: Let them know you care and are there for them, but don't pressure them to talk if they're not ready.
• Be patient: Give them time to process their emotions and reach out to you when they're ready.
• Focus on your own well-being: Don't let their behavior define your self-worth. Surround yourself with positive people who make you feel good about yourself.

Remember, true friends will be there for you through thick and thin, even when they're going through a tough time. If someone consistently avoids you or makes you feel bad about yourself, it might be time to re-evaluate the relationship.

I hope this helps!