When does a narcissist say they’re sorry for hurting you?

 A narcissist's apology is often insincere and manipulative rather than genuine remorse. Here's why:

Reasons for a narcissist's "apology":

• Maintaining control: They might apologize to regain control of the situation and avoid further conflict.
• Shifting blame: They may apologize to deflect responsibility and blame you for their actions.
• Preserving their image: They may apologize to maintain their public persona and avoid appearing in a negative light.
• Gaining something: They may apologize to manipulate you into doing something they want.

Signs of a manipulative apology:

• Lack of accountability: They may apologize but not acknowledge their specific actions or the impact on you.
• Shifting blame: They may turn the situation around and make you feel responsible for their behavior.
• "But" statements: They may apologize with a "but" followed by excuses or justifications for their actions.
• Conditional apologies: They may apologize only if you meet certain conditions or expectations.
• Lack of empathy: They may not express genuine understanding or concern for your feelings.

Remember:

• Don't take their apology at face value.
• Focus on their actions, not just their words.
• Prioritize your own well-being and set healthy boundaries.
• Seek support from trusted friends, family, or a therapist.

If you're in a relationship with someone who exhibits narcissistic behavior, it's crucial to protect yourself and consider seeking professional help.